Thrifty Tony

It’s NOT Cheap to be a Groomsman anymore (this is why)

Being a groomsman is expensive

Weddings are expensive! According to The Knot, the average cost of a wedding including the engagement ring in 2020 was over $33,000.1 This includes the venue, photographer, and a long list of other things, but what it does not include is the cost of being a groomsman which is typically paid for by the groomsmen themselves.

In this blog post, I’m going to go over my actual expenses for the 6 weddings that I was a groomsman for since 2017, give you an idea of what costs are involved and compare my average cost to the national average cost.

Cost of Being a Groomsman

There are numerous costs to being a groomsman in a wedding. Here are some of the most common ones.

Tuxedos and suits that I’ve worn to various weddings as a groomsman.

1. Tuxedo

One of the biggest expenses for a groomsman will be a tuxedo rental.

For me personally, the cost of my tux’s ranged from $118 all the way up to $235 with an average cost of $183.

2. Travel

Oftentimes you have to travel to attend a wedding, and this can get just as expensive. Luckily, I never had to buy a plane ticket for a wedding, but you could imagine that this would quickly up your cost.

For me, the average cost was $184 for 1 or 2 nights in a hotel room.

A great way to save some money here is to split the cost of a hotel room with other groomsmen or wedding guests which I have certainly done quite a few times.

3. Wedding Gift

Next up we have wedding gifts, and this will certainly vary depending on a lot of factors.

For me, I gifted the bride and groom either $100 in cash or got them something valued at $100 from their registry.

4. Bachelor Party

In addition to the tux rental, hotel, and wedding gift, there are certainly other expenses that a groomsman will incur, but the most significant is probably the bachelor party. Not all grooms have bachelor parties, and if they do, they could be anywhere from a night out at a local bar to an extended weekend in Vegas.

I attended 3 bachelor parties, one of which involved flying to Vegas, and the average cost was $691.

Average costs that I realized when being a groomsman.

Average Cost of Being a Groomsman

So not considering the bachelor party expenses right now, let’s figure out the average cost of being a groomsman in my experience.

Considering the tux, hotel room, and wedding gifts, the average cost of being a groomsman for me was $493 per wedding.

WeddingTuxHotelGiftsBachelor PartyTotal
May 2017$214.64$129.71$100.00$304.00$753.35
Aug 2017$176.49$216.42$200.00$1,619.59$2,282.50
Oct 2018$174.36$258.77$100.00$0.00$533.13
Dec 2018$235.31$201.14$100.00$150.82$721.77
Jun 2019$118.50$150.00$98.17$0.00$316.67
Sep 2020$179.49$151.20$100.00$0.00$430.69

Now how does this compare to the national average?

Although different sources vary, it seems to be on par with which estimates the average cost of being a groomsman to be $405 whereas huffpost estimates that groomsmen spent an average of $445 on the bachelor party alone.2

When we factor in the cost of my bachelor parties, my average bumps up to $839 per wedding to be a groomsman.

How to Save Money As a Groomsman

Knowing this, how can you cut costs and save money as a groomsman?

  • One of the best ways is to split the cost of a hotel room with other groomsmen or wedding guests
  • If traveling and you have a good amount of lead time, you can start scouting out the cheapest flights months in advance
  • A lot of tuxedo rentals are done at Men’s Warehouse, so if that’s the case for you, you can use Rakuten to get at least 2% off your tux rental online
  • Sign up for the Perfect Fit rewards program at Men’s Warehouse which at one point got me $50 off one of my tux rentals

It’s a true honor to stand beside your friend or relative as they get married, so enjoy it and I hope you found the information in this blog post helpful.

Thrifty Tony

Thrifty Tony

Tony approaches most things in life with a budget-conscious mindset while at the same time maximizing investments which results in an ideal balance between spending and saving. And of course he enjoys free things and bonuses every now and then.